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Our senses are indeed our doors and windows on this world, in a very real sense the key to the unlocking of meaning and the wellspring of creativity.

~ Jean Houston ~

life one step at a time . . .

There are very few human beings who
receive the truth, complete and staggering,
by instant illumination.  Most of them acquire
it fragment by fragment, on a small scale,
by successive developments, cellularly,
like a laborious mosaic.

~Anaïs Nin~

What the Body Needs To Produce Serotonin

Posted May 15, 2013

Our physical, mental, emotional, and chemical well being are interrelated.

We can study these aspects of health separately and address problems in these areas separately, but whatever affects one area touches all the others, for good or ill.

Something that has an immediate impact on each aspect of health is our dietary choices.

This is why a nutrient rich diet is the most common sense and scientific first line of treatment for all our ills, including depression. A simple explanation of how the body manufactures serotonin illustrates this.  

What the Body Requires to Produce Serotonin

Although much remains a mystery, we know that a state of mental health requires an adequate supply of neurotransmitters such as serotonin. 

  • The body must have protein to manufacture serotonin (and other neurotransmitters).
  • To digest protein, we need to have adequate stomach acid.
  • To produce stomach acid, we need to ingest proper amounts of zinc, B1 and B6.
  • Stomach acid breaks down proteins into the amino acid tryptophan.
  • To break down tryptophan into 5-hydroxytryptophan, the body must have a ready supply of folate, calcium, iron, and B3. 
  • To morph 5-hydroxytryptophan into serotonin (5-hydroxytryptamine) the vitamins and minerals B6, zinc, magnesium, and Vitamin C are required.

So, without zinc, our stomach acid is inadequate to break down protein. The amino acid tryptophan cannot be transformed without folate or calcium. Without the presence of all vitamins and minerals required, no serotonin can be made.

This is not to imply that lack of adequate nutrition is the cause of everyone’s depression. It may be why some people are depressed, but for many people diet is one of several possible factors in their diagnosis.

Keep It Simple

Eating well when you are depressed is not easy. You may not be hungry or might not have the energy to grocery shop or prepare food already in the cupboard. People who feel worthless or hopeless may not care whether they eat well enough.

Do your best, and ask others to help you shop or prepare food if you need to. You can eat simply and still get the nutrients you need . . .

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Vitamin D and Depression: Will Supplements Help?

Posted April 26, 2013

We all know vitamin D is necessary for good health and that a lack of it can contribute to numerous health problems. Is depression one of those problems?

Research on the role vitamin D plays in mental health is growing. So far, studies have yielded links and tendencies between mood and levels of vitamin D, but no definitive answers.

Scientists cannot say whether low levels of this vitamin cause depression, or if depression causes production of vitamin D to drop. One thing researchers know is that vitamin D acts upon areas of our brain also associated with depression. This finding is important enough to warrant further study.

The Brain and Vitamin D

There are receptors for vitamin D in different parts of the brain. Receptors are docking stations on the surface of our cells. They chemically attract and connect with specific biochemical elements circulating in the body. Once a biochemical such as vitamin D docks at a receptor, it can do business with that cell.

So, the areas of the brain with receptors for vitamin D “do business” with vitamin D. They must need what vitamin D has to offer. This suggests that a lack of vitamin D in mood-related gray matter, where there are receptors for it, may be linked to the experience of depression.

One theory is that vitamin D is involved in the making and effectiveness of brain chemicals called monoamines. Serotonin is a well-known example of a monoamine. Antidepressants work by increasing the brain’s supply of serotonin and other monoamines.

If the presence of vitamin D is necessary for the natural manufacture of monoamines, a lack of vitamin D would cause a decrease in brain chemicals such as serotonin, contributing to depression.

What Vitamin D Research Has Learned

Despite the many questions remaining, vitamin D research is helping piece together the puzzle of depression, for instance:

  1. A lack of vitamin D might be one of several factors contributing to depression. (Although some people in studies have experienced an improved mood after taking vitamin D, researchers cannot yet determine if that was the cause of the improvement.)
  2. People who are depressed tend to stay indoors, and are less likely to replenish their supply of vitamin D with sunshine.
  3. Research carried out over short time periods may not be effective in studying the association between vitamin D and depression.
  4. People who are depressed and have adequate levels of vitamin D are less likely to be helped by taking vitamin D supplements.
  5. Supplements may help people who are depressed and already have low levels of vitamin D.

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Falling Apart? How To Create Mental-Emotional Glue

Posted April 15, 2013

One of the best coping methods for stress and symptoms of a mental illness is having a creative outlet, an activity we can pour ourselves into.

It can be anything we deeply engage in such as gardening, scrapbooking, baking, yoga, writing, woodworking, or painting. Writing poems is an excellent creative outlet for some and deserves a shout-out since April is National Poetry Month.

Creative endeavors can sponge up our feelings, give us a sense of control, help us explore what we cannot understand, provide enjoyment and accomplishment. Sometimes they are a glue, holding us together when symptoms seem to be pulling us down or apart.

The Psychological Glue of Creative Activity

One of America’s most well known poets, Robert Frost (1874 - 1963), was familiar with symptoms of depression, and with the fact that a tendency toward mental illness can run in families:

  • Frost’s mother, Isabelle, suffered from depression.
  • William, his father, was an alcoholic.
  • In 1920, Robert Frost committed his sister Jeanie, age 44, to a state mental institution in Maine. She died there nine years later.
  • Frost’s son Carol took his own life in 1940 at age 38.
  • A daughter named Irma was committed to a mental hospital in 1947.


Robert Frost was known to be, at times, jealous, vengeful, depressed, and unstable. Although Frost’s darker impulses were sometimes intense, he did not write poetry to escape life, but to engage it. “If poetry isn’t understanding all, the whole world, then it isn’t worth anything,” wrote Frost.

Many of his poems are pastoral in nature but below the surface of his verse is a tense confrontation with the senseless cruelty found in our world, and the unpredictable shadows within himself. Fortunately for for us, he put these thoughts and anxieties into thought provoking, heart grabbing poetry.

Lodged

The rain to the wind said,
“You push and I’ll pelt.”
They so smote the garden bed
That the flowers actually knelt,
And lay lodged--though not dead.
I know how the flowers felt.

~ Robert Frost

What’s Your Glue?

We can all engage the world and wrestle with our questions, anxieties, and inner gray areas by putting our energy into activities we are naturally drawn to or have interest in.

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Finding Light In the Darkness of Depression

Posted April 1, 2013

Our experience of life has much to do with the way we see or perceive it. One of the reasons a poem can be life altering is that it may change our experience by changing our view or perception of it.

April is National Poetry Month, the perfect time to explore the positive and profound effect well-chosen words have on our heart and mind.

Even when the symptoms of depression, or any mood disorder, are intense, it is possible to experience a shift in our point of view. Although the shift does not solve the problems in our life, it may allow us to manage them with less distress and a lighter heart. Being able to provide this change in perception is the magic of poetry.

A Poem That Lights the Darkness

Depression is often thought of as a type of darkness, frightening and unpleasant. The poem shared here, Sweet Darkness by David Whyte, offers a different perception. It transforms darkness into a space where we can rest, find love, and see further than is possible with our eyes open to daylight.

SWEET DARKNESS

When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.

When your vision has gone,
no part of the world can find you.

Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.

There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.

The dark will be your home
tonight.

The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.

You must learn one thing.
The world was made to be free in.

Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.

Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn

anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive

is too small for you.

~ David Whyte, from his book River Flow

Whyte’s poem also invites us to question what really belongs to us.

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Three Ways To Ditch Your Dark Depressive Thoughts

Posted March 22, 2013

When you are caught in a depressive funk, it is important to get away from your thoughts.

Although these thoughts can seem inescapable, they’re not. We can escape them because our awareness is something we can control.

It takes effort to move our awareness where we want it, but with practice it gets easier.

Thoughts are concepts or things that come and go. We entertain them, experience them, see them, know them, and sometimes link them together into larger ideas or stories. Although it can seem we are our thoughts, we are not.

Struggling or wrestling with depressive thoughts only seems to strengthen them and entangle us in their embrace. Instead of wrestling, it is better to give up the fight and leave the ring. The question is often, how does a person do that? It can seem as if there is no way out.

Three Ways to Escape Your Dark Thoughts

1. Helium Balloon Visualization

Take a deep breath, either literally or in your imagination, and blow all your monkey-mind thoughts into a balloon with your magical helium breath. Make the balloon a specific color, maybe purple, orange, or red. Imagine your mind emptying and the thoughts flowing into the balloon.

Tie the balloon closed, take it outside and let it go. Watch it slowly drift up and away, carrying your stormy thoughts with it.

Fill and send off several balloons throughout the day if necessary to give yourself a rest from your thoughts. Enjoy the peace of being free from them, even if the peace is fleeting at first.

2. Heart Awareness

Awareness is not the same as our thinking mind. With our awareness we observe what goes on in our environment, and in our mind. By allowing your awareness to settle into your heart area, the tumultuous thoughts in the mind are left behind.

For those new to working with awareness, this means observing life from your heart. It does not mean somehow getting inside your heart and looking out. It is simply a matter of letting your attention, your ability to observe, rest at heart level.

The heart is an open, peaceful place to observe from. Although scientists know that the heart is a mind of its own, having its own neural network, it does not entertain thoughts. It seems to be more of a wise and knowing dimension of humanity where you can hang your awareness and chill-out.

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Anxious Dilemma: When Taking A Break Causes Anxiety

Posted March 16, 2013

A survey by Expedia shows that U.S. employees received an average of 12 vacation days in 2012. Typically, only 10 of the paid time off days were used. The only global area more workaholic is Asia, where workers were given about the same number of days off and used only half.

There is a different mindset in other parts of the world. Workers in Europe are guaranteed from 20 to 30 vacation days by national policy, and most Europeans take all of the allotted time off.

Why We Do It

There are at least three reasons why people in the U.S. do not take vacation days, and though they seem reasonable they also point to the fact that many of us live under nearly continuous stress and work pressure: 

  1. People are new to a job and have not accumulated vacation time.
  2. Employees use an option to roll over (save) unused vacation days.
  3. Employees choose the option of getting paid for unused vacation days.

There are also at least three unreasonable - but very real - reasons why people do not take allowed days off:

  1. Using “too much” vacation time is frowned upon by management.
  2. If employees fear lay-offs they tend to do what they can to be indispensable at work, including always being there.
  3. Working hard and doing what it takes is a virtue in the U.S., even if it makes us miserable.

The Cost of All Work and No Play

John De Graaf made a documentary about overworked Americans called Running Out of Time. He said, “Women who don’t take regular vacations are anywhere from two to eight times more likely to suffer from depression, and have a 50 percent higher chance of heart disease.” The health risks are higher for men.

Not enough down time is a problem for individual well being and in the long run, it taps into employer profits. A study conducted by Middle Tennessee State University found that stress-related health expenses costs U.S. businesses approximately $344 billion each year.

The Livable Truth

It seems we do not believe what research is forever showing us, that productive workers take frequent breaks. They also take time to pursue interests, enjoy family, friends, and leisure pursuits which sometimes involves doing nothing.

The University of Singapore did an interesting study. It revealed that employees who spend up to 20 percent of their time at work goofing-off on the Internet are nine percent more productive than disciplined workers who avoid online distraction. This indicates that most of us know when we need a break and then we get on with our work.

Now that the workplace has gone digital we are more productivity obsessed than ever, and because the economy is rocky, fear and anxiety in the workplace are high. However, depriving ourselves of long or short vacations harms our health, lowers efficiency, and creates resentment toward employers over time.

Taking Care of Ourselves

Not having a job causes anxiety. Living in fear that we will lose our job if we appear to be less than superhuman produces anxiety. Working as if we are superhuman causes stress, anxiety, harms our health, and lowers our work efficiency. We have created a difficult world to live in.

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Exposure To Depression Affects Our Antidepressant Attitude

Posted March 7, 2013

When we participate in a situation through observation, we are experiencing the situation vicariously. Usually there are emotional responses to what we are witnessing. It could be a football game or imagining ourselves climbing Mt. Everest as we read about an expedition.

Vicarious experience gives us information and shapes our perceptions, although the experience is not physically ours.

Knowing someone who has depression and witnessing the struggle is a vicarious experience, one that affects our attitude about the illness and its treatment. We do not choose this experience and purchase tickets or buy the book. When a friend, family member, or coworker has depression the experience chooses us because we are there.

Did You Know . . .

  1. If you have had vicarious experiences with depression, you are more likely to accept and adhere to taking antidepressants, should you need them. This is true whether you had a family member who was treated for depression or your family has no history of it, but you spent time with a depressed friend.

  2. If you have not witnessed people dealing with depression, your attitude about taking an antidepressant, should you ever need one, will tend to be more negative. You will be at higher risk for discontinuing the medication even before it starts to help.

This Is Because . . .

  1. Having a family history of depression is thought to give people a genetic, biophysical perception of the diagnosis. This reduces the stigma that frequently follows depression and implies that it can be treated with medications.

  2. Even without a family history, knowing someone with depression, and vicariously experiencing their journey with it, is also thought to reduce stigma by helping people realize depression is an actual illness, not something to “get over.”  People may also witness a friend being helped by taking an antidepressant.


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Depression-Diabetes Connection: What You Need To Know

Posted March 2, 2013

If you have been diagnosed with depression or bipolar disorder, it is a good idea to be screened for diabetes. Similarly, should you have diabetes, you might think about getting checked for depression. The reason for this caution is that depression and diabetes are linked.

One connection between diabetes and depression is positive; both are illnesses that no one wants to manage, but they can be managed.

There are steps you can take to reduce the discomfort and impact of their symptoms. Although adjustments in lifestyle are necessary and annoyance is inevitable, many people with either diagnosis continue to pursue fulfilling lives.

Diabetes Basics

Your body produces the hormone insulin. The job description of insulin is to haul sugar (glucose) from the food you’ve eaten into your body’s cells. The cells burn sugar for fuel to accomplish whatever it is a particular cell is meant to do.

If your body does not respond to insulin according to nature’s regulations, or if it does not produce enough insulin, the sugar you consume stays in the blood stream and causes:

  • frequent urination
  • increased hunger or thirst
  • recurring infections
  • fatigue, anxiety, irritability, restlessness

Diabetes-Depression Overlap

Four signs of diabetes are also standard symptoms of depression:

  • fatigue
  • anxiety
  • irritability
  • restlessness

The two illnesses share some risk factors as well:

  • blood pressure problems
  • family history
  • obesity
  • inactivity
  • coronary artery disease

Because the illnesses overlap, it is easy to mistake a sugar imbalance for signs of depression (lethargy, irritability) or to have both illnesses and not realize it. If given the diagnosis of one, it is wise to have a doctor screen for the other.

Diabetes-Depression Cautions

If you feel depressed after receiving a diagnosis of diabetes, it is likely a temporary reaction to some disturbing news. Difficulty sleeping, sadness, and anxiety are normal responses to discovering you have an illness. As you adjust your lifestyle and learn to manage diabetes, the depressed feelings should subside within a few weeks. If not, see your doctor.

Should you become depressed, you may find yourself eating more or less food than previously. There may be a tendency to consume comfort foods, which are frequently simple carbohydrates (i.e., french fries) or sweets. Even without a history of diabetes, this change in eating habits will naturally affect your body’s blood sugar level and insulin production.

Four More Important Facts

  1. The incidence of both diabetes and depression is increasing in western societies.
  2. People who have both diagnoses are at 52 percent higher risk for heart attack or stroke. Should you have both illnesses, ignorance is not bliss.  Both need to be managed well.

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Aaron Swartz, suicide, and the dilemmas of being above average

Posted January 16, 2013

It seems an injustice to say that Aaron Swartz’s legal troubles caused his suicide.

Swartz was familiar with depression and his legal problems no doubt caused enormous stress. Stress exacerbates depression, and severe depression is agony. There is no better word for the experience than agony. When you are inside the pain there seems no end to it other than death. 

Not knowing Aaron Swartz makes it impossible to speak for him, but in his honor we can consider a problem he likely understood.  

Children and adults who are highly talented, emotionally sensitive, or spiritually precocious are susceptible to existential depression, despair as a reaction to the realities of existence.  

People who contemplate, reflect, question, and analyze naturally bump up against issues of purpose, meaning, relationship, and death. They have a clear understanding of life as it is lived and simultaneously have a vision of life being lived better, and how to accomplish that. Yet, in the great scheme of things, how insignificant one person feels. 

There are children who grow up wondering why people, even those they love, say one thing and do something else. They wonder how it is possible to rationalize poisoning the environment, why ideas are more important than life, why humans have so much potential but live with mediocrity. There are children who feel the sadness our world generates, or know in their hearts the essential oneness of humanity.  

A young person who can think abstractly, is intuitive, or knows the language of emotions often has no where to share their thoughts. The adults they know may be unfamiliar with their thinking, fearful of it, or angry with it. Their peers may not relate to the concerns that occupy them so they have difficulty making friends, or must ignore their gifts to make friendships.  

There are enormous frustrations that can accompany being above average, and the frustration can over time turn into anger, a sense of powerlessness, and futility. The dilemma of having sensitivities that dwell on one side of the fence, while having to make a living on the senseless side of the fence, can cause people of any age to disintegrate into depression. Some individuals go back and forth between integration and disintegration throughout their lives. 

It is not elitist to acknowledge that some people are more intelligent, talented, or sensitive than others. Everyone knows it is a fact, and it is not something to fear. Many people who are gifted are also egalitarian, compassionate, generous, and though full of flaws they do not desire having power over others; quite the opposite.

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Parents, kids, and anger: Emotions are a message, not a problem

Posted January 8, 2013

People who counsel adults know how crucial it is for children to have good role models for managing emotions. Unfortunately, many problematic emotional habits get handed down from one generation to the next, especially where anger is concerned.   

Looking at this issue has nothing to do with assigning blame for learned bad habits. Parents can, however, make an effort to be better emotional management teachers than those farther down their family tree. 

Our anger is a message. It lets us know important things like someone just hurt our feelings, or treated us like dirt, or that we think someone hurt, or trampled on us. One thing anger is not designed to do is determine our actions, yet people frequently let anger dictate their behavior. 

An important thing to realize about anger is that it’s similar to an aftershock. It follows other emotions such as fear, sadness, hurt, or disappointment; feelings that make us feel vulnerable. Anger makes us feel powerful, so many of us prefer covering our vulnerability with anger. Although this is understandable, it wreaks havoc on relationships. 

There is nothing wrong with anger. Anger alerts us that something is amiss, needs our attention, and requires resolution, or understanding. Like adults, children become angry for a reason. It is likely kids do not understand the reason well enough to express it rationally, particularly if anger is not something usually discussed in the home. 

Five Tips Concerning Emotions  

1. We have no control over the way others feel, including our children. Like adults, children react to the world through the filters of their experience, beliefs, and perceptions. They are not designed to react to situations as their parents do. A child’s emotions give them information about themselves. 

2. If someone is throwing a tantrum or is enraged, meeting their anger with your own is the same as dumping gasoline on a bonfire in a dry forest. Unless there is an issue of safety involved, you do not have to fix anyone’s meltdown, including a child’s. All tantrums burn themselves out. 

3. It is damaging for a child to think anger is bad, or that getting angry is not OK. Their anger may be misplaced, or there might be a reason for it that you are unaware of. Either way, emotions are meant to flow and be felt. Until they are accepted we cannot learn how to manage them. 

Kids need to be accountable for their behavior when feeling angry, but not for feeling angry. It is normal for children to get pissed off. Consequences should never punish the feeling. Children have to learn how to express anger effectively. They may be doing the best they can for their stage of development but must also acquire better ways of handling emotion.

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